How do I forgive someone and move on when they have wronged you so horribly? I know God tells me to do so, but its so hard! Do I tell them my feelings? Do I just vent it personally and not bother? I know I am supposed to turn it over to the Lord and He will take care of anyone who has wronged His children. What if its my Mother-in-Law? What if she has hurt me and David so badly that I want to drive my happy self to Mobile and confront her face to face? What if I'm sick and tired of seeing my husband upset because his own flesh and blood mother treats him like a second class citizen? What if I want to tell her that until she gets some counseling, I don't want her back in my house?
When David and I got married, I really wanted a mother-in-law that I could be close to, and would be like a second mom, or at least a good friend. Did I get that? Nope. I too get treated like I don't belong. Heck, our first Christmas together, I ended up in the guest bedroom at her house, crying my eyes out, because her, and all of her step children, wouldn't even speak to me. I wanted another family that I could be a part of since I didn't grow up with a big family, and most of the family on my father's side has already passed away. But David's mother doesn't make me feel like part of the family at all. Everything has to always be about her. If all 3 of us are in the same house, she has to make sure all the attention is focused on her. She is a pro at playing the damsel in distress bit. And she seriously needs mental help, because she has a shopping addiction. A serious shopping addiction. So bad that she offered to pay for our honeymoon, and on the day before our wedding tells us 'opps, sorry, I blew all of your honeymoon money on clothes'. :o Nice huh? Obviously I have a lot of built up anger. And I am trying to do the Christian thing and let it go. I am really trying. Trying so much that I haven't said anything, and its been almost 4 years that this mess has been going on. Do I continue to let it go?
Honestly, I don't know. Things got 'better' between my MIL and I after I told her off... but I didn't bring it up (she picked a fight with me in front of everyone, and I told her EXACTLY what kind of a person she was. Oops...). I don't know how you would go about it...
ReplyDeleteDo you think it would change anything? or just give her more ammo? Because that'll help decide whether it's worth it.
And if you do decide to say something, tell DH first- partly so he has a heads up, partly so she can't lie to him about what happened...
Hahaha, my work verification for that was 'dramma.' Random my behind.
ReplyDeleteLOL!! That is hilarious that your verification was 'dramma' lol. Couldn't be random, lol.
ReplyDeleteSo far, I'm just letting it go. David did tell her off a little bit :) Which he has never done before. He just avoided the confrontation. But I told him if he did it, he just might feel better, and he said he did.